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Dear Friend

The Morality Principles are followed by The Family Principles. Before we analyze the marriages of prophet Mohammad, what kind of family principles that prophet Mohammad put forward, should be learned.

Family Principle - 1

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor reprimand them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.'' Quran 17:23-24

- Prophet Mohammad taught this mankind, to respect the parental relationship, especially when you are grown-up, you can stand on you own feet and your parents are old.
- He commanded the believers to pray for their parents by saying - "My Lord ! Bestow on them Your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young."

Family Principle - 2

"Everyone of you is a guardian and is responsible for his charges. The ruler who has authority over people, is a guardian and is responsible for them, a man is a guardian of his family and is responsible for them; a woman is a guardian of her husband's house and children and is responsible for them" - Prophet Mohammad.

Family Principle - 3

"The most excellent dinar (money) is one that a person spends on his family." - Prophet Mohammad.

Family Principle - 4

Worship Allah (One God) and join none with Him in worship, and do good to
• parents,
• kinsfolk,
• orphans,
• the poor,
• the neighbor who is near of kin,
• the neighbor who is a stranger,
• the companion by your side,
• the wayfarer (you meet),
• and those (slaves) whom your right hands possess.

Verily, Allah (One God) does not like such as are proud and boastful. Quran 4:36

Here again, the vastness of the relationship is explained.

- Maintaining the relation is by doing good deeds to the above people.
- Maintaining the relations is not by being proud and boastful.

Family Principle - 5

"The one who looks after a widow or a poor person is like a warrior who fights for Allah's Cause, or like him who performs prayers all the night and fasts all the day."  - Prophet Mohammad.

What you see is only a few samples from the 100s of Family Principles that were envisaged, practiced and put before this mankind, by prophet Mohammad.

People who scandalize the marriages of prophet Mohammad, when they hear about a second marriage -

- They think that it is about abandoning the parents and relatives and going after women.
- They think that it is about being irresponsible to one.
- They think that it is about stop spending money to family and going after women.
- ...

Because, for them,

- When they think about a second marriage, it is only for cutting one relation and going after the other.
- When they think about a second marriage, it is only about being irresponsible to one and being responsible to the other.
- When they think about a second marriage, it is only about stop spending to one and start with the other.
- ...

The point is -

- If prophet Mohammad had lived with more than one wife, he had the best ties with parents, kinsfolk, orphans, poor etc etc.
- If prophet Mohammad had lived with more than one wife, he had the best sense of responsibility towards all of his wives.
- If prophet Mohammad had lived with more than one wife, he had spent for all of his wives.
- If prophet Mohammad had lived with more than one wife, he stood for the betterment of widows.
- ...
- If prophet Mohammad had lived with more than one wife, then it was based on these kind of 100s of Family Principles.


will be continued ...